Mrs. A: "You seem to have the fantastic idea that a person can have the wish to damage himself.
I have always assumed that every individual is his own best friend and well-wisher. Left to himself, no reasonable person would do himself harm in any way. Isn't your assumptions in contradiction to common sense?"

Bergler: "If you had said, 'Every person is his own best friend and well-wisher consciously,' there would be no argument. But if your rule is meant to include the unconscious, it becomes more than debatable. Unconsciously, many people damage themselves."

Mrs. A.: "That's unbelievable."

Bergler: "Of course. Still, it corresponds to the facts."

nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn--Tensions Can be Reduced to Nuisances, Bergler (1960)